Is it wrong that I am annoyed that my MIL insists on “scheduling” visits to see her infant grandson?
Thursday, February 18th, 2010Nancy asked:
My MIL calls every friday night to see what time she can come over on sunday afternoon to visit the baby. My husband and i both work full time and the baby is at our house with a babysitter everyday. The weekends are our only “time” with the baby. My MIL never comes to see the baby during the week even though she isn’t busy or tied down by her job (she works from home on her own schedule) and the baby is just sitting at the house. We’ve told her numerous times to come by during the week or just call or stop by when she is near by. (she lives fifteen minutes away) When she comes over on Sun she expects us to sit with her and talk to her while she holds the baby. I find this so annoying because I have things to do. I don’t like being stuck to her scheduled visits. My husband thinks i’m unreasonable that i can’t commit to a time on friday when she come over on sunday and that i just don’t want his mother to see the baby. he says she doesn’t come over during teh week when teh babysitter is here becuase she is not a “people person” (my MIL loves to talk to strangers everywhere she goes–so i don’t understand his reasoning, plus it would be nice if she could pop in on teh babysitter from time to time to ease our minds). also before i went back to work, she never came over during teh week either. He thinks its no big deal becuase we usually aren’t doing anything on sunday afternoon. he also thinks its completely normal that she wants to plan her weekend on friday. But i explain, maybe i’ll want to take the baby for a walk or decide to go grocery shopping if he is in a good mood. i don’t like trying to fit the baby’s naptimes and nursing times around my MIL’s “scheduled” visit. i don’t like being stuck at the house every sunday afternoon and not even able to get chores done because i’m “entertaining” my MIL. She has never once watched teh baby (because she hasn’t offered) (the baby is 6 months old) and has never offered for us to take a nap or get things done while she is here. one time i just kept cleaning and she insisted i sit down with her that my house was clean enough. now me and my husband fight about this every weekend becuase i won’t give a “time” she can come over on sunday and say let her call us on sunday. if we say no we’re busy, come over on monday, my MIL asks if we’re mad at her and gets my husband upset that her feelings are hurt. then she can’t “commit” to monday becuase she doesn’t know what her day will be like. WTF! what should i do, i’m about to freak out on my MIL.